You’ve already made the big decision that it’s time to move on. So besides finding your new place, getting your move quote and assembling packing materials, the most delicate move-related task you need to tackle may well be telling the people nearest and dearest to about it. Whether it’s breaking the news to parents who’ve always been there for you, siblings, friends and coworkers, kids who’ll be switching schools and maintaining friendships at a long distance while required to make new ones. Let’s face it, moving long distance comes with its fair share of tricky conversations.
Here are some suggestions on how to share this news with the ones closest to you while keeping these relationships intact.
Parents and In-Laws: Break the News Gently
This might be the toughest conversation of all, so I would recommend that, if you have a partner, you tell each parent or set of parents together. Presenting a united front show you’ve made this decision as a couple.Start by sitting them down and let them know you have important news to share. Explain that you’ve decided to move and why and keep your reasons as positive and upbeat as possible. Reassure them that they will remain an important part of your life and if any their grandchildren. Remember, answer any questions they have honestly, yet tactfully. It may come as a shock at first, so give them time to process what you’ve told them.
Your Kids: Be Open and Straightforward
Start by calling a family meeting. This gives your kids a heads-up that you have something important to share. Explain that the family is moving and try to anticipate the types of questions they might ask. Be honest, but also do your best to put a positive spin on what’s about to happen. Focus on the benefits of moving to help them feel good about it.
If your kids are older, expect the conversation to move toward the social impact on their lives – saying goodbyes to friends, boyfriends /girlfriends, social activities and sports teams they are apart of.It’s always a good idea to get the kids involved as much as you can in the moving process. Have them help pack up their rooms and pick out decor for the new place. Let them make decisions about what they want their new space to look like. Have them feel in control and apart of what’s happening. Getting them excited about the possibilities ahead will help ease any fears of what they are leaving behind.
Your Employer: Notifying Your Boss
When it comes time to notify your employer of your upcoming move, you’re faced with the question of how to best do it. Well it really depends on the kind of relationship you have with your boss and how you normally communicate.
Here are some tips on how to notify your boss of your move:
• Explain your reason for relocating and leaving your position. When explaining your reasons for leaving, you should always emphasize the fact that your relocation is motivated by outside circumstances and that you are not leaving the company because you are unhappy. Your employer will be much more understanding of whole situation if you explain that your reasons for leaving are not from dissatisfaction with your current position.
• Make sure you tell your boss in-person. Most of the time your best bet is to address your boss personally, in a face-to-face conversation, so you can clearly and concisely explain your reasons for leaving. Unless the situation deems it necessary, or extenuating circumstances interfere with having a face-to-face conversation, you shouldn’t notify your employer that you’re leaving in an email or over the phone. These forms of communication tend to be more impersonal and can send the wrong message about your reasons for leaving.
• Always be honest. As long as you’re upfront and honest about your relocation and your reason for leaving, then you shouldn’t encounter any problems. Honesty does not mean you now have an opportunity to finally tell your boss what you really think of them. Try not to burn a bridge!
Your Closest Friends: Setup A Dinner/Bar Night
Telling your close friends you’re moving can be bittersweet so choose your words and timing carefully. My personal advice? A night out for drinks on the town or if your a bit more reserved a nice dinner at a favorite restaurant. Explain in person your reasons for the move, what lays ahead and share how you’re feeling. Be honest that you’ll miss them, ask for their support and let them know you promise to stay in touch and keep that promise!
Utilize Technology Often To Bridge The Gap
Remember, no matter how far away you move, technology can bridge the gap. Have regular video chats to catch up, vent about life’s frustrations or celebrations with the ability to see each other’s faces. Yes, life can keep us all busy but ultimately it really doesn’t take much effort to stay in touch, especially if it’s a relationship that’s worth keeping.
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